We Built a House

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We built a house out of silence and words,

With deep conversations we built the foundation,

Sweet honeyed words that oozed and dripped,

Hardened into concrete passion and love,

Kept level for a time as we patched the cracks,

We let down our guard as the foundation settled,

That was our first mistake,

With polite greetings we built the walls,

Used small talk as we went about our tasks,

In the walls silences became trapped and used for insulation,

Keeping uncomfortable spaces between us,

We talked with our eyes without sharing our thoughts,

That was our second mistake,

With angry words we raised the roof,

We built rafters with the appearance of strength,

But empty and unlivable to those inside,

We chose barbed shingles in an overlapping pattern,

Beautiful to behold but they caught and tore the heart,

We lived in this house and never made repairs,

That was our third mistake,

If we had built our house with realistic expectations,

Knowing that marriage either grows or weakens,

We could have given it the attention it needed,

Sharing our dreams and goals as we stayed best friends,

Making additions, repairs and strengthening the foundation,

But we didn’t,

We built our house on hopes and dreams,

Thinking that the other’s faults would change,

Rather than learning unconditional love and acceptance,

Our house was built on the sand of our own vanities,

And when the storms came, and they always do,

The storms were stronger than a house of words,

And the only thing left is the silence.





13 thoughts on “We Built a House

  1. This is beautifully written. In a relationship to be successful, these 3 ingredients must be present… TRUST, RESPECT, BONDING (communication). One of these lacks, it would definitely failed.
    I love this poem and the moral lesson it gives. 🙂

    • You are very wise and correct in your evaluation of a relationship. Neglect any one of these ingredients, trust, respect, bonding, and there’s trouble.

      May the sun be on your face and the wind at your back as the Lord blesses you throughout the day. Carpe diem!

    • Thank you, Isabel. Feel free to share with others. Please visit my blog often and enjoy.

      May the sun be on your face and the wind at your back as the Lord blesses you throughout the day. Carpe diem!

    • Houses that aren’t build well fall apart quickly. Your comments are right on.

      May the sun be on your face and the wind at your back as the Lord blesses you throughout the day. Carpe diem!

  2. This was powerful Dan and so true! I watched my parents and how they handled marriage with honesty, sincerity, respect, trust in each other, but above all trust that God would get them through each hurdle and He always did. Blessings!

  3. Powerful and concrete rendering of a really rough situation. It’s always sad to watch a relationship crumble, just as it is sad to watchan old house razed. Somebody loved there, once. Thank you for sharing your work with us!

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